For three years, I’ve been a caregiver for both my parents. After my mother passed away, my father, who’s already facing serious health complications, began a steep and ongoing decline.

Nothing could have prepared me for how drastically life would change.

There were sleepless nights, emergency hospital visits at a moment’s notice, the constant need to stay alert, and the overwhelming physical, mental, and emotional fatigue. Some days felt like everything hit me all at once: burnout, brain fog, loneliness, and grief.

Caregiving isn’t something most of us are trained for – it’s often something we figure out as we go. But through my experience, I’ve learned a few things that might help others who are walking a similar path.

What I’ve learned from the trenches:

• Pack a grab-and-go bag. Include medications and a medication list, water, snacks, a light jacket (hospitals can be cold), a phone charger, health cards, ID, and Power of Attorney documents.
• Dress for comfort. Hospital waits can be long, and you will feel more comfortable when you’re physically at ease.
• Take notes. Keep track of names, roles, and conversations with doctors, nurses, PSWs – it’s easy to forget.
• Be patient with everyone, including yourself.
• Ask questions. Don’t be afraid to say, “I don’t understand.” Medical language is complex, and clarity can bring peace of mind.
• Take breaks. Go for a short walk outside, take a nap, do a 5-minute breathing exercise, listen to music—anything that can reset your mind.
• Build routines and systems. They can reduce decision fatigue and bring flow to chaos.
• Establish clear communication. Sharing roles and having open conversations makes a big difference.
• Make your space work for you. Rearranging your home for accessibility saves energy and creates more moments for connection.
• Stay organized. Appointments will pile up fast. A simple calendar can be a powerful ally.
• And most importantly: Be compassionate with yourself.

You’re navigating something incredibly demanding and deeply human. There will be moments when you feel like you’re not doing enough or doing it all wrong. You might lose your patience, shed tears, or feel anger bubble up. That’s okay, you’re not failing – you’re feeling.

Over time, your caregiver journey will shape you in profound ways. It’s not easy, but it’s meaningful.

If you’re in this role right now, I see you and you’re not alone.

And just in case no one has told you lately: You are enough.