Please note: This article discusses topics related to self-harm, which may be distressing or triggering to some readers. Please proceed with caution. If you or someone you know is struggling, please call 911 for a medical emergency or 988 for a mental health crisis.

When we think about caregiving, many of us picture caring for an aging parent or elderly relative. However, caregiving can involve people of all ages with various needs. As a caregiver to my 24-year-old daughter, I’ve realized that caregiving is a complex and deeply personal journey that isn’t always visible to others.

In 2017, my daughter was diagnosed with several mental health conditions, including Complex PTSD, General Anxiety Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), ADHD, an eating disorder, and severe depression.

She has struggled with self-harm since she was 12 and has attempted suicide multiple times. It is heartbreaking to see her face these daily challenges. At the same time, it strengthens my resolve to advocate for her needs and look for resources that can help her recovery.

After we moved to Ottawa, I had a hard time navigating the mental health system; it felt like a full-time job. Luckily, I found valuable support through family peer connections and specialized programs from PLEO (Parents Lifeline of Eastern Ontario) and the Ottawa BPD Network. These resources helped me understand my daughter’s condition and manage the emotional challenges of caregiving.

Alongside these resources, I also reached out to the Ontario Caregiver Organization (OCO). They provided many tools and support specifically designed for caregivers. It has been comforting to know that I’m not alone and that there is a strong community of caregivers who understand my struggles.

When I became a parent, I envisioned a life where my child would grow up, finish school, and live a “normal” life. However, my daughter was never able to get past eighth grade and has been unable to work due to her complex disabilities. Despite these challenges, I remain hopeful as I continue to support her healing journey.

From my personal experience, I’ve learned that caregiving requires not only physical support but also emotional strength. It’s easy to lose sight of your own needs when you’re focused on helping someone else, but taking care of yourself is just as important. While caregiving can be tough, it’s a journey we don’t have to walk alone when we have the right resources and support.